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The gas tank whoosh is probably normal if you're getting it in the heat of the afternoon. The gas cap holds pressure. There's a vent (through the carbon canister) that will hold pressure up to a point and then release anything further.
Coolant leaking onto a spark plug is strange. The head gasket ("main gasket?") is located beneath the spark plugs, so I wouldn't think it would be the source of coolant leakage onto your spark plug. Perhaps you have a pinhole leak somewhere, and there's a bit of spray. It wouldn't hurt to replace the hoses.
It's more likely you have motor oil leaking from your valve cover onto your plug (not a serious issue). Is the liquid green or brown? Is it sweet?
The "hot restart" problem is a known and typical issue with the 280Z. There are several theories. Mine is that the early fuel injection designs were meant for different fuel formulations than we have now, and they had issues even then. When you shut off the engine, heat soaks the injectors, which are normally cooled by fuel. When they get hot enough, they vaporize the fuel, and they will only blow vapor into the intake until they cool off -- not enough fuel to fire the cylinder. The problem is made worse with ethanol gasoline (more volatile than old-fashioned gasoline), and it's even made worse by winter blend ethanol gas (which is even more volatile than summer blend, especially if you have it in your tank when you run the car during the summer). The problem is worst if you let the car sit for 20 min. After about another 15 min, the car becomes much more startable. If you're in a rush, you can hurry the process by popping the hood and letting the engine cool.
The design problem was partially remedied in subsequent years by: (1) creating webbing between the intake runners to block airflow from the exhaust ('77/'78), (2) shielding around the exhaust -- between exhaust and intake manifolds and around the exhaust manifold ('77/'78, I believe), (3) putting vents in the hood ('77/'78), and (4) eventually providing a cooling fan for the injectors that runs after engine shut-down (280ZX generation).
FAIW, these cars are very easy to work on, although a head gasket might be over most people's pay grade. You can download a Nissan factory service manual from the "reference" section of www.xenons30.com. It's one of the best service manuals I've ever seen -- far and away better than a Hayes or Chilton's. It's what the Nissan service departments would use, but Nissan also sold copies to owners for maybe $80. If you prefer paper, like I do, you can probably find a used one on ebay or Amazon. Make sure it's for your year of car.