I can understand the "panicing". Many of us, no matter how versed we are with mechanicals in general, enter a grey area when it comes to transmissions or differentials. The reason being, there are a lot of specialty tools needed to do the required work. Precise measurements also are key, just as a machinist or engine builder, a transmission specialist relies on his math skills, knowledge base and special tooling. Sure, some of us can take them apart and put them back together, but not with the degree of expertise as a pro. Over the years many things have changed/improved, such as design, materials, fluids, etc. With these changes modern transmissions have much tighter tolerances and as a result less play which directly results in a longer service life. I think the comment made by your transmission shop owner reflects this. He would notice this play much more than we would. Having fluid in it or not would not change his opinion. Why did you bring it to him? What problems did you have?